The First Secret-June 18, 2011
So hubby and I started listening to a 5 part series by Dr. John Izzo last night titled ‘The Five Secrets You Must Discover Before You Die’ (I believe it is in book form too). Loved it. The first secret was ‘Reflect More’ so I wanted to do a post to reflect more and organize my thoughts with my fingers and also summarize what stuck with me.
He started by stating a thought that we should have when we die. (I have adapted it to be present tense instead of past).
“I am living a good life. I focus my life on the things that matter and don’t fill my life with irrelevant clutter. I live the life of love and of adventure. I enjoy every moment. My life echo’s in the world and will continue long after I am gone. I have no regrets. Because I don’t live my life based on the voices of other people. I follow my heart.”
This gives me shivers. It is worth reading a few times to really let it sink in. Can I say this every day of my life? Can I say it now? Today?
He talks about reflecting on questions like (these are mine, I didn’t write down his)
1. Where do I want to be now?
2. Who do I want to be now?
3. What would be my most important accomlishment and what can I do to work on it now?
4. What is in the way of any of the questions above and are they things I can fix? work to fix?
Reflecting back on our married life of over 8 years we have made all kinds of crazy changes. We are in our 7th house/apartment and our 4th city/town. All our changes have been made with this kind of reflecting. Looking back it has been lots of crazy changes but each has got us closer to what we want and think is best for our family. I am happy and have no regrets even though things didn’t always turn out great.
He talked about ‘good tired’ and ‘bad tired’ at the end of the day. Clearly ‘bad tired’ is a draining day. However there are days in our life that are just as physically and mentally tiring but they are energysing at the same time. What is included in your ‘good tired’ days? I have been thinking about this more. For me I need to learn, exercise and serve. These things really energize me. Books, walking and community service are how I accomplish these things now and I could do them all for hours without wanting to stop.
One last thought he had was how someone could work on an area they were struggling. Instead of making clear goals written out like lots recommend he suggested writing a few words on a piece of paper and cariing it with you to look at several times a day. This appeals to me more because I am more of an idealist than I am calculated and defined. Not sure I will do this but I liked the different approach and wanted to share.
We really enjoyed starting this series and look forward to watching more of it this week. I will share with you more as I learn.
On reflecting I wanted to also share a bible passage I have kept going back to in the last few weeks. It seems to fit into the ‘reflecting on your life’ idea:
“Love must be sincere. Hate what is evil; cling to what is good. Be devoted to one another in brotherly love. Honor one another above yourselves. Never be lacking in zeal, but keep your spiritual fervor, serving the Lord. Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer. Share with God’s people who are in need. Practice hospitality.” Romans 12:9-13
Check out the second secret
On another note. My US passport finally arrived in the mail today. Vacation coming in 12 days!