October 26, 2011 in Minimalist Parenting
This past sunday the kids went to play at grandma’s for the day and Bryon and I wandered kid-less for a few hours downtown. These are some of the pictures he took.
I want to start off by saying that in no way am I saying that anyone needs to be more than a mom to be fulfilled. I am a stay-at-home mom. I am also not saying that being a mom isn’t super important to me. It is my biggest responsibility and my greatest job.
That being said, I am more than a mom.
Becoming a mom is the single largest identity change. Graduating from college, getting married, getting the corner office, none of these are close to the social change that comes from becoming a mother. (probably the biggest personal and physical change too)
I was someone before I had kids, and I will be someone after they leave home. I want my life and how I see myself as well as others and society to remember that identity.
I am not talking about doing, this isn’t a post about working or non-working mom’s, I am talking about who I am.
- A strange combination of shy and bossy
- Outdoorsy, especially live for hiking
- Not a kid person
- Always cold
- A people pleaser
- Type A with a mix of hippy
- Spontaneous because I am such a planner that if I have the chance and time to plan it tires me out
- Loud guitar player (not good, but I love loud)
- Mostly vegan
- Concerned about the environment but more concerned about helping the people it is affecting now
- Concerned about animal rights but more concerned about child prostitution
- … wish I had dreads, but don’t have all the guts to pull it off yet
- Love non-fiction reading – positive, informative stuff
- Proud of my kids
- Sure the world is going to end, but convinced I need to trust God and enjoy life, only dealing with what can make a difference and not stressing about what I can’t change… or packing cans in the basement. … this isn’t a problem we can work out or plan for beyond staying close to Jesus.
- Accepting of others but unsure how to culturally meet several
- Live life in fast/happy or slow/sad swing
- Don’t watch TV or movies much, I get too emotionally drained
- Don’t watch or read the news (see #15)
- Believe that most of life is what we create, how we respond and what glasses we choose to look through
- Not near as strong or healthy as I wish I was, but determined to keep working on it
- I don’t spell very whell
- Have been in 7 countries and really hope to multiply that by 10 or so if I get the chance
- Love my life
- In love with my husband more than when we were married
Really this is a post about stereotypes (motherhood is just the big one I see everyday). It is hard with human nature to look beyond them. But, I am learning the joy of taking the time to look past the outside and obvious parts of a person and finding some of their true self. Often, even though the outside/obvious person doesn’t seem similar or have ‘friend potential’, the inside has pieces identical to mine.