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  1. Jody
    Monday, 28 November 2011

    My husband works every day through 12/27, so our Christmas experience includes special dinners for the week around Christmas instead of exchanging gifts. We haven’t exchanged gifts for years now, but it started because of a lack of money. And now we enjoy doing an activity together, like seeing a Christmas show, instead of giving gifts to each other.

    How do you handle extended family get-togethers when the focus is on exchanging gifts? With in-laws and aunts/uncles/cousins? I have young son who doesn’t quite realize what is it all about, but I don’t enjoy the day because I feel like I opened gifts all day or watched others open them.

    • Lorilee
      Monday, 28 November 2011

      well, Christmas is about love and people all see and define love different ways. Have you read the ‘5 Love Languages’ book? I read it a long time ago and it has helped me with this. Some people feel loved when they get gifts. I don’t. I much prefer time and people doing something special for me. The thing is that to show love to others you need to use their love language. My extended family is very gift oriented where my family wasn’t growing up. For my husband and kids we decide what works best for us (as noted above), but for the extended family we do what they like and do gifts. With minimalism and avoidance of junk this year I am trying very hard to purchase less stuff, but more quality (I fall for the appearance of quantity easily). Also, with the minimalism side you can focus on things that are, edible, replacing something they already have with something better, or go off their list and get something they really want (and would buy on their own). Not, just all the stuff that the stores want you to buy :) This way, there is less junk laying around and less stuff and money is waisted. I might write a post on this later in the month. Thanks for your comment!

  2. heather at wordplayhouse®
    Monday, 28 November 2011

    We share your sentiment of simplifying the holidays. Being with your family, enjoying the holidays—instead of at the mall shopping—is so much more wonderful. We share buying less and giving well this season twice because I think it is so important to share: http://www.wordplayhouse.com/2011/11/toys.html
    It really does make for a more special, less expensive, calm, and memorable holiday. You have come up with a beautiful solution for your family. And I’m so happy you are sharing this idea with others. Wonderful post, Lorilee.

    • Lorilee
      Monday, 28 November 2011

      thanks!

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