July 2, 2012 in Minimalist Tips
Are you struggling to live a minimalist life? Struggling to live in the present? Always waiting for the ‘next’ thing to be accomplished? to arrive? or to ruin your life? We only live now. We can’t live in the past or in the future, so why do we spend so much time thinking, planning, and worrying about it?
I struggle. My memory is poor so the past isn’t a problem. Instead I struggle with living in the future. Goals and anticipation are good, they give us direction and a reason to keep going, but they are still not reality. I want my main focus to be reality — the present.
So why not give some attention to the present? Get it noticed!
A few weeks ago we decided to have a fancy supper. We pulled out the china, lit some candles, ironed the cloth napkins, and turned off the lights. The meal was only homemade pizza, but it was served with fancy sparkling juice The kids had a blast!
I have another confession to make (making my confession list longer ). As I did the dishes I realized there was still price tag stickers on most of the pieces. Our wedding china from (just shy of) 10 years ago. These are pretty hardy stickers because we have used our china several times, but obviously not that much in the last 10 years. This wouldn’t be as eye opening except for the fact that when we got it at our wedding we wanted to be the family who used it instead of just setting it in a cupboard. …this is why we still own it even though we got rid of almost everything else.
But the truth is in the stickers.
We decided to, as often as possible, make this ‘Friday Supper Party’ a tradition. It isn’t about the formality or making things fancy just because, it is about celebrating the present and having fun as a family.
Kids are so great at this idea. It takes very little to turn something into a special occasion or a surprise and they eat it up. Sometimes they create it all on their own. My son especially is always turning any new thing into a gift or reason to celebrate. A few days ago we found a lost pad of finger-painting paper behind the dryer and he decided it was his ‘first night present’ for sleeping in a new bed. He was all excited.
Want to try it with us? Want to set a celebration tradition in your life or home?
For different people it could look different. Maybe fancy meals with china place settings isn’t your thing, but there is something that would be a special and fun way to treat yourself.
Feel free to get carried away with it too. Set several traditions or habits in place so you can bring attention to the present. Date night (my personal favorite, every Wednesday night), or a meal with friends. Even remembering to buy something special like fresh flowers or fancy chocolate once a week. 3 or 4 days a week could be different kinds of ‘parties’.
You spend so much time planning your future. Take some of that time back and use it to plan and celebrate your present. (tweet this)
Can you do something now?
I am all about simple living and not giving you more things to do, but would you take a minute to find a way to celebrate today? I say whip out the china and make a fancy dinner party, but if you don’t have time for that, what else are you going to do?
How are you going to celebrate today? (if you are reading RSS join us in the comments)
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