How can we be ‘not busy’? I wrote about this a few months ago but I have been seeing it around me everywhere and have been thinking about it quite a bit lately. Typically watching other people helps me learn more about myself and this is definitely one of those times. My name is Lorilee and I am not busy–never…at least I try not to be. You have the choice not to be busy either.
This post isn’t about schedules. We all know we have control of our time and what we put into our schedule. There is a really good chance that if you are reading this post your schedule is full, maybe even overflowing. If you are wanting to live an intention life and live just a little (or a lot) against what society dictates than you probably have lots of things you are working on. I do.
But you can have an overflowing schedule and still not be busy. (tweet this)
Technically in the dictionary the word busy isn’t a negative word, but in society it definitely comes across that way.
- How are you doing? ‘I’m so busy’ – meaning I have no control of my life. I am struggling to stay on top of what I have to do but I feel like I am failing.
- Want to come to (blank) party? ‘I’m too busy‘ – meaning I have more than I think I can do. So much that I can’t take time out for fun because I might get behind.
- Mommy, can you read to me? ‘I’m busy right now’ – meaning what I am doing now is important and can’t wait.
Busy seems to have the theme of out of control, overwhelmed, living in the future, excuse for confused priorities, and failure.
This has nothing to do with a full schedule. Your schedule could be more full than mine and you could decide to be less busy.
That is right – You decide to be ‘not busy’
Not trying to make it seem that easy… maybe it isn’t easy but it is simple.
It has been really fun working with all the contributors for You Can Do It Too – 25 Homeschool Families Share Their Stories. These families are all really cool in their own way but this busy concept really jumped out at me over the last few weeks. I have a full schedule but I am a minimalist (have almost no house to take care of) and only have two kids. Some of the ladies I was working with had houses full of kids (some with special needs), all the housework that goes along with that, and at least one business on the side. If anything, I thought, these women would be busy. I sure don’t think any of them have extra time on their hands but the resounding theme from the majority was not a frazzled, busy, and behind housewife, mother, and teacher like one might expect. Instead they seem to have full lives that they enjoy.
I figured if some of them could keep from getting the ‘busy’ mindset than I could too.
I am sure you know people in your life as well. First there are people who accomplish a lot and have lots of responsibilities but always seem have time to talk. Then there are people who run around all the time complaining of being busy that really don’t have that much to do… at least not enough to make them so crazy.
I don’t want to be busy because:
- It is depressing and overwhelming
- It is living in the future (with the consequences of not getting something done)
- It is selfish…focused on what I am doing, what I have to get done, what I… get the idea
Instead I want a full life:
I want to have lots of stimulating projects going – but they won’t control me
- I am in control of my life, where I spend my time, what I have committed to, what I do or don’t do
- I will live in the present enjoying moments that come my way everyday because work can wait (seriously, as much as we think it is a huge deal it usually isn’t)
- I will focus on others and relationships. This isn’t my world, and nothing revolves around me.
How do I keep from feeling busy?
- Understand that not everything is going to be done
- Make sure I understand my priorities so that they are never the part that doesn’t get done.
Figure out what is the most important and do that first. The 80/20 rule has been proven several times in business. 20% of the effort is responsible for 80% of the results (or more). Doing the most important things first guarantees results.
Be open each day to what it has to give. Maybe it will be more productive in some ways and maybe not. Just work and live one day at a time 🙂 This doesn’t mean that you are always open to all distractions, it just means you can modify your day based on what it gives you and not just plow ahead with busyness.
Do you struggle with busyness? (if you are reading RSS join us in the comments)
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