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  1. Mark Adam Douglass (@MADouglass)
    Wednesday, 9 January 2013

    I used to be a big dreamer, but mostly unintentionally have been more focussed on the present. If I make it intentional, then I am sure to improve. Thanks for some ideas.

    • Lorilee Lippincott
      Wednesday, 9 January 2013

      you are welcome :)

  2. Ana
    Wednesday, 9 January 2013

    I also have a big problem on focusing on the present! But this year I’ve started to change that :) The biggest thing that is helping me is decluttering and simplifying my life and the other one is really forcing me to be in the present moment every time my mind starts wondering about the future and the past. For me not only the future is a problem, I think about the past many many times! But I am becoming better and I don’t think so much about it as I used to, so I’m happy :) Thank you for this post, it really helps me to keep going!

    • Lorilee Lippincott
      Wednesday, 9 January 2013

      Yes, the past can be a huge problem as well. Keep going :)

  3. Heather
    Wednesday, 9 January 2013

    I am constantly looking towards the future, but I have been trying to dial it back a bit. I have all of these lists with goals, and I know I am working my way toward them, but I need to be more present as well. Taking a step back to realize that even though we are trying to pay off debt, I can’t only think about when we have completed that goal, I still need to be making fun times for us and our kids now (which we do, but maybe some more thought could go into this instead of paying off debt). Plus, I feel like when I have all of these goals, checking one off doesn’t end up being a huge accomplishment – because I am already thinking of the next one! Good reminder!

    • Lorilee Lippincott
      Wednesday, 9 January 2013

      “checking one off doesn’t end up being a huge accomplishment – because I am already thinking of the next one” yes! yes! I totally understand. Somehow maintaining the balance of goals and direction (i.e. getting out of debt) but spending most of our mental time in the present is so important :)

  4. Emily
    Wednesday, 9 January 2013

    What a gift your message was this morning! As I processed it, I was able to reflect on what works for me. I can so easily get lost in details and worry! I recalled what I have learned in 2 favorite books (which I would love to reference if you’d like!). 1. Plan your trip, but don’t pack your bags until just before you leave. I’m always trying to keep the big picture in mind, and not get lost in the details…they so often take me out of the moment. I often write down ideas so I can get them out and don’t have to keep holding them all in my head! I also may start a dream board this year–to keep a visual of my future goals. I recently had a huge one come to me, and had to remind myself to be faithful in waiting for the details to fall into place as they are supposed to. It always seems to work out better when I don’t get too involved in the middle of things, but just be open and willing to receive divine messages. 2. If you realize you’re “out of the moment” you must be back in it if you realized you were gone! :) Mindfulness and focus are muscles too, and have to be strenghtened over time. I’ve loved these lessons.
    Self-care is also a big one I’ve had to work on. If I’m well cared for, I can focus on my family…and that includes quiet time to dream.
    After reading your message this morning, I turned on my “favorites” playlist, and it was Eric Clapton “Wonderful Tonight”. My daughter wanted to dance. I gladly stopped what I was doing and danced with her…..until she wanted to hear “Jingle Bells” instead! :)
    Have a wonderful day!

    • Lorilee Lippincott
      Wednesday, 9 January 2013

      I would love book recommendations :) I love the idea of writing things down to get them out of my head as well. Lots of times when I actually write down what I am thinking it doesn’t look near as big or hard as I thought.

      • Emily
        Wednesday, 9 January 2013

        I agree completely!
        The 2 books that have helped me immensely:
        Payment for Passage by Janie Wells
        Living with Your Heart Wide Open by Steve Flowers and Bob Stahl

      • Lorilee Lippincott
        Thursday, 10 January 2013

        thanks! I will look them up :)

  5. Elizabeth Kane
    Wednesday, 9 January 2013

    Definitely struggle with this one. I’m a planner, a list-maker, a dreamer, and a worrier! It’s tough finding a middle ground between planning your goals and living in the present. I like your recommendations on how to make that effort.

    I think it’s ok for some of it to spill over into each, like if you have a great idea you want to write or research more about. I’m finding with writing that instead of letting an urge take over my brain completely if it’s not the best time (like right in the middle of dinner with everyone), I’ve started making a real conscious effort to jot it down with a few sentences and then plan almost immediately to sketch it out later so I don’t lose that energy.

    • Lorilee Lippincott
      Wednesday, 9 January 2013

      yes, I understand. I get ideas to write about all kinds of random times. I just put a note in my computer and then my mind can come back to what I am doing instead of trying to hold on and juggle the idea :)

  6. Evelyn @ Smallish
    Wednesday, 9 January 2013

    Great post, Lorilee! I especially like your suggestions. Insightful thoughts to keep our minds on the here-and-now, even when it’s not as glamorous as what might be coming down the road a bit. :)

    • Lorilee Lippincott
      Wednesday, 9 January 2013

      Thanks!

  7. Kerry
    Wednesday, 9 January 2013

    I can so relate to this post! Several months ago I began taking the one-day-at-a-time approach during a time in which my career was causing a lot of undue stress, and the effect has been remarkable! Living in the present moment really does help me focus (eye contact, making my words count, etc.). In a sense, it’s about decluttering our psyche sometimes! We can fill it with so many things that distract us from really living the way God intended us to live. Amazing how it parallels with decluttering our material possessions. :)

    • Lorilee Lippincott
      Wednesday, 9 January 2013

      yes, the longer I have thought and tried to practice minimalism the more areas of my life it seems to be able to help :)

  8. The Greatful Mom
    Friday, 11 January 2013

    This is something I really struggle with. I constantly think about the future, how things will be, etc. I like planning, but I know it is kind of ridiculous to plan for something when I don’t even know if it will happen and I’m not there yet. I know the future can change at any moment, but I think my issue is one of contentment. I am not content with my life, and thinking about the future–where we will be living, where I will be in my career, what our vacations will be like–helps me deal with the fact that I do not like where we live, I am not satisfied with where I am professionally, and I can’t stand the fact that we can’t afford to travel. I feel like, if I knew that this is all my life would ever be comprised of, I would be crushed.
    Do you think that is a problem?

    • Lorilee Lippincott
      Saturday, 12 January 2013

      na, not a problem. Probably normal :) I think we need to dream. If we don’t dream we never get anywhere. We need dreams, plans, and goals, but most of our living needs to happen in the present.

      Contentment is huge too. I have slowly been learning that if I can’t be content with where I am now I might never be content. There will always be something to fix, something to make better, more money to save, or better career opportunities out of my grasp. I need to dream big, but I need to be content with where I am now and enjoy everyday for what it brings :)

  9. Christine Somers
    Saturday, 12 January 2013

    The tension between planning for and imaging the future and mindfully living in the present is a daily struggle. Your suggestions for staying grounded in the moment are a reminder me staying in the moment is made easier by remaining attached to the physical. Lighting a candle or looking at the person you are talking to them requires using two key senses…two senses that keep us in touch with the here and now.

    • Lorilee Lippincott
      Saturday, 12 January 2013

      Yep, I am not usually really creative, but when I can find things that stimulate the senses it always seems to help remind me to live in the present.

  10. yuree han
    Tuesday, 15 January 2013

    I have a problem also being fully present. I like the parties idea and being spontaneous. Thanks for the suggestions. These are great!

    • Lorilee Lippincott
      Wednesday, 16 January 2013

      good luck :)

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