My husband took this with his camera (he switched to an iphone) last weekend on a walk we took with friends.
Back a few months ago on January 2 I posted about having no goals for this year. I had read a bunch about the concept and it sounded good. It sounded like it really simplified life, and my ‘goal’ is simple minimalist living in all areas of my life.
The truth is, I just couldn’t do it.
I think goals are a dangerous thing. Sometimes I feel like I can’t live with them and I can’t live without them. Goals can be a part of my life that pushes, gives guilt, threatens failure. I don’t want that. I also don’t want lots of goals and to spend hours evaluating and measuring them. I hated all the goal talk in the corporate business world. So the idea of just having a fluid self-motivated life sounded much better.
But all my self-motivating creates goals. I have had the goal to release this book for months on March 21. Sure, I could release it whenever it was done, but I just loved the date of 3-21 to go along with the title. To be honest, the date goal has helped a lot. I finished writing the book early in January and I would have been tempted to try and release it then. Instead I have spent the last 2+ months going through several editors and talking to lots of people to make sure that it can be the best book possible and that it can be (hopefully) released properly.
We have family goals of wanting to travel with the kids. Without that goal and working toward it, it will never happen. Traveling overseas as a family just isn’t something we can decide and do over a weekend.
So, how do I live in the present with goals as a positive motivator in my life?
This isn’t rhetorical, I am still trying to answer this. I still really want to live in the present. I want to direct most of my goals to the present instead of something far off. Goals, habits, personal mission statements, all of these are very related, and might all be the same thing looked at from different angles. Who I want to be right now is what I want to be my primary focus. Where I want to be in the future, is secondary. Here is my current list of goals:
- Strengthen my relationship with God
- Be a patient and supportive parent and teacher to my kids
- Keep learning and growing in my life by reading and thinking
- Growing in my writing abilities so I can communicate better on my blog
- Start exercising and continue to focus on healthy eating
- Save money for future travel
- Work on a second book
I don’t know that I am ready to have any of my goals measurable or date specific. that part I am more than happy to leave out. I am working toward something – sometimes walking, sometimes running – but always clear on the destination. I want my present goals to always be able to trump and be priority over my future goals. I want my living focused on today instead of in the future.
What do you think? Do goals help or weigh you down? How do you see them fitting into a simple life?
321 Stop Book Update:
More reviews coming in everyday, here is another sample:
“You know how sometimes when you read something, it’s like you have the author sat next to you with a hot cuppa tea, whispering her secrets into your ear? Well 3-2-1 Stop was like that for me. And then rather than racing through it from one chapter to the next, I was surprised to find myself stopping along the way to actually put stuff into action. A rare feat for a serial book worm like me! And this is probably the best testament I can give Lori … reading this book will make stuff happen!” — El