I have started reading Inside-Out Simplicity by Joshua Becker as part of my May reading list and early in the book he talks about defining success. This isn’t a new concept and I talk about in my book also, but it is a very important thing to figure out.
I sat in the library with my kindle (while the kids were looking for books) yesterday thinking about this for a while. When it is all said and done (hopefully after more than 100 healthy years:)) what do I want to be able to say that I have accomplished. I am sure my list will change, but this is what I think at the young age of 32.
- Recognize, hear, and know how to respond to the voice of God – This has always been a big thing for me. Typically, as Christians, we all talk about needing to follow God and follow His will. We all believe that He speaks to people and that He has plans for us (we quote Jer 29:11). However it seems like most people who call themselves Christian (including myself) aren’t confident in their ability to hear God’s voice. This is actually really embarrassing. There are some crazies who claim to hear God’s voice and see Him in dreams…but listening to them talk…they are mostly just crazy. However, there are some people who stand out as being truly spiritual and much closer to God’s heart. They seem to have a humble understanding of God and live in His power. That is where I want to be.
- Make sure my children know that I will always love them – No matter how old they are or what they do (good or bad) I want my kids to know in their heart that I love them, always have time for them, and will listen to them. …maybe not always agree with them or support what they have decided, but always love them and be there for them.
- Spent time and money building others up – It is fairly universal for people to believe only taking care of themselves will not make them successful. Even though we all want to and value helping others the practical action side of it is easy to forget. I want to keep practicing putting charity as a high priority in my time and money until it becomes much more of a habit.
- Be happy – There are definitely things that make being happy easier or harder but when it comes down to it – happiness is still a choice. I want to remember my life as being happy and I want others to remember me for being happy.
- Be missed – (haha) What I mean to say is – I want to be able to develop deep relationships that add value to people’s lives as well as my own. We are connected to more and more people with technology but we know them less and less. With so many people moving around people end up coming into and out of our lives all the time. This is just the society we live in, but I want to un-learn it enough to be able to develop a few closer friendships that really matter.
- Continue to learn – not sure how many years I will be granted but I would like to look back on them and see how I spent my time and energy learning new things. So much of not learning isn’t about lack of time but fear. I want to look back and know that fear didn’t stop me.
- Be comfortable being me– I don’t have to have my way in life all the time but I want to make sure I have an opinion and am not afraid to share who I am. I don’t want to hide behind the person I think others want me to be. I want others to be themselves and I value their differences so I believe others want and expect the same from me. I have spent lots of my life hiding and worrying about if I am saying (or being) what people want me to say (be). I hope to get better and more confident in sharing myself and help others feel okay being themselves as well.
Blogging is such a good excuse to come up with a nice clear list. Things float around in my head but it has been blogging that has really helped me articulate the way I feel and give me something to try and live by. Thanks for coming along for the ride 🙂
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