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You Can Find Happiness


I believe you can find happiness.  Happiness is something that everyone wants,  few seem to find, and most would argue doesn’t cost much.

It doesn’t take up space, never goes bad or needs repairs, and is the cause of most envy.  Happiness doesn’t seem far away,  it is always almost within arms reach but so few seem to find it.  We can’t store it, save it, give it, sell it, or take it.

Undoubtedly, it is the most valuable thing we can have.

What is this happiness?  Can we find happiness?  What are we doing wrong if we don’t find it?

I have not figured out happiness but there are things I have been learning that have helped me find happiness.  I would love to hear how you find happiness in the comment section because we can all learn and grow from each other.  Happiness, more than anything, is a mental thing.  Way to often it is connected with possessions or money but deep down we all know it isn’t found that way.

Here are things I have been learning that have helped me find happiness.

The World Will Not Give It To You

Some people believe and act like happiness is something they need to receive.  Often it goes by another name — Luck.  It is something that the world or universe gives and takes without reason and if they get it — great, if not — there is no hope.

Happiness is not something you will be handed by the world, other people, God, or lady luck.  You will not find happiness by sitting down and waiting for it to fall from the sky.   You need to take responsibility to find happiness yourself.

Be Yourself

A simple (but not always easy) first step to find happiness is to be yourself.  So often we are afraid to be ourselves or haven’t tried to be ourselves for so long we don’t even know who we are.  You and I will never find happiness by trying to be someone else.  On the flip side we will never probably really learn how to be ourselves either, but a life trying to be yourself instead of trying to follow another mold, is a step to finding happiness.

Do What You Love

Because we are all so different we all will find happiness in doing different things.  Finding things we love doing and making time to do them is a responsibility we have to each other as well as a way we find happiness.

Find a way to make time to do something you love and learn something new that you think you might like.

Be Content

The world really struggles with discontent.  We are not content with our material possessions, our position in life, our relationships, our health or bodies, the government or even the weather.  Name an area of life and there is always lots of discontentment that comes along with it.

Being content doesn’t mean settling.  Being content means we are happy with what we have right now.  We understand that we made choices to get where we are and we are at peace with the outcome.  We don’t need to be content with the future.  The future can have goals, dreams, and visions of something better.  But our present will find happiness if we can be content with our now.


Purpose is like a goal that is bigger than yourself or your own life.  Purpose means you are making a positive difference outside of your little world.  Find purpose and you can find happiness close behind.   I don’t think the amount of difference you make is connected to the amount of happiness you find.  We all have different things to contribute to the world and if we are making that contribution, that difference, we find happiness.

World About More Than Me

Why do we so often (consciously or subconsciously) act like the world is about us?    Somehow understanding that we aren’t all that important, that the world will not crumble without us, and that most people really don’t care we exist gives us the freedom to find happiness.  It doesn’t need to be about us.  It isn’t not about us either.  The world just is.  The story is bigger than us or what we think, believe and feel.


Just like love happiness is a choice.  It isn’t affected by what we have or by how much we have gone through.  No one has a perfect life and everyone’s life has pain.  Pain is real, but I don’t think pain is the opposite of happiness.  Can we hurt and struggle and still have happiness?  I think so.

Today has hit me harder than I would have liked.  It is one of those days that seems to knock you down every step of the way.  Nothing horribly bad, but lots of little things ganging up and making it seem worse…. for one this post was done and written and somehow got eaten by the internet  hamsters.  I am sitting her unsure if I can honestly write a post about being happy.  … but I can.  Things don’t always go the way I want, but I can still be happy.

What do you think?  Anything you would like to add about how you and I can find happiness? (if you are reading RSS join us in the comments)

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  1. I definitely think it is a choice to be happy…one I forget about a lot unfortunately. I tend to be pretty pessimistic, and I think that takes some of my happiness away 🙂 I am also trying to realize that I can’t change people to make myself happy, I can only change how I react to people and how I am. Not an easy lesson to learn! But, I am starting to do things for myself, that I wouldn’t normally do because they might not line up with someone else’s views. I think that has really put into perspective the people I should have in my life. It seems my happiness is all people related 🙂 Great post!

    • thanks Heather! Totally not easy to remember and put into action… that is why I have to post about it to remind myself 🙂

  2. Dawn Dawn

    Love your article. I always tell my children (and myself) that happiness is really a choice. If you wait for it to be given to you, it won’t happen.

    • Yep 🙂

  3. maddalena70 maddalena70

    I know that happiness is a mind status…. That you have to be happy before in your mind, as for peace, and after in your life……

    But if I can be sincere at the moment it is very difficult to me just not to be angry…. and confrontational with my two little girls above all….

    But I am still trying to change my attitude…praying and reading the His Word….

    But sometime it seems so hard to see the light through the darkness…



  4. Lorilee,

    I loved reading this! Your words are always a joy to read. I’ve had a number of people tell me that I am a happy person and usually they follow that phrase with this question: “How did you become happy?” I’ve learned that true happiness has nothing to do with external circumstances. I wrote a post a while back on my blog that shares a little about my journey to true happiness in the midst of really difficult trials.

    Blessings to you!

    • Amy, Thanks so much for your comment 🙂 Did you mean to share a link to the post you wrote? The link goes to a book page.

      • Oops! I goofed up…I’m glad I can laugh at myself! I meant to share the link to a post titled, “Rainbow Flowers and Small Miracles.”

        I’ll try it again.

        • thanks for sharing 🙂

  5. germanmama germanmama

    … There is no way to happiness,
    hapiness is the way…

    Thanx for your inspiration!

    • yes, the journey not the destination 🙂

  6. Thanks, everything you shared our good reminders that finding our own path to happiness is up to us and us alone. I’ve been thinking a lot about this along with what you’ve written in previous posts about focusing on what’s most important to us as a way to live a “minimalist” life. Honestly though I’ve been thinking about it for awhile I struggled a lot with really putting my priorities on paper. I thought there was something wrong with me, honestly because I’ve always struggled with this activity. Luckily, I recently stumbled upon this activity on a productivity blog that helps you see if you are living your priorities. It was SOOOO helpful for me and I just thought some of the folks on here might find it helpful as well. Thanks again, I love reading about your thoughts on this journey!
    Here is the link:

    • Thanks for sharing! I struggle figuring it out too. … that is why I have to blog about it 🙂

  7. TheHonestTruth TheHonestTruth

    God should not put men and women on earth if they Weren’t meant to meet each other. and to see so many other men and women that were Blessed by God to have met one another and have a family, just adds insult to injury.

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