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Dealing With Stress – Working in the Now

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The last 3 months have been probably some of the hardest months in my life.  (not including the months after the kids were born… those months I don’t really remember I was so sleep deprived so they were probably worse).

The last 3 months has included an incredible amount of change, un-known, and risk.  And it isn’t over.  We still have a lot of change coming ahead and I don’t know what our lives will look like in another 2-3 months.

A few weeks ago I wrote about a bunch of this change and a huge online campaign I was involved with.  The work we put into making that happen (while going through so many other changes) was more than we could emotionally handle.

To be honest with you (cause bearing my soul to a bunch of strangers is a perk of blogging), now that most of the work on that project is done, I have been on the verge of tears for a week just trying to release some of that boiled up stress.

However, I have learned a lot through the past few months.  I have learned about commitment, determination, big ideas, overcoming fear, and team work.  But probably what helped the most was learning how to deal with stress by working in the ‘now’.

… now, to be honest, I learn slow.  I wish knowing this and living it were they same but usually it is a struggle 🙂  Processing the ideas to write about it really helps me.

I’m not sure where you are in life right now.  I hope you are stress free sitting on a beach somewhere with  healthy relationships, and money in the bank.  But, that is probably a small (very small) percentage.  The rest of us go through seasons of life that are much more stressful – either with good stress or bad stress.

Sometimes bad stress is unavoidable and many times good stress is what creates space for growth and learning.  Stress is not healthy, but a life with no seasons of stress is probably not realistic. Not having healthy stress to push us to something better or help us to learn isn’t healthy either.

Living in the ‘Now’

Usually I think of this as a way of making sure to enjoy the positive parts of life.  It is a way of practicing contentment.  Not missing the childhood years and ‘smelling the roses’.  But in the past few months I have been forced to practice this idea to deal with stress because otherwise I would be completely overwhelmed.

When the month seemed impossible to tackle, the week impossible to tackle, and often the day impossible to tackle it is a great opportunity to really focus into the task at hand and block everything else out.

  • Right now I just need to get out of bed.
  • Right now I need to feed the kids.
  • Right now I need to …..

If I started focusing on much more I would become overwhelmed and start avoiding the things that really needed to get done.

However, the great thing is that this practice benefits the positive times as well.  Now that life has calmed down I have a much better understanding of living in the moment.  As much as I have written about it in the last few years it is still a concept that I struggle with.

This idea doesn’t mean not planning for the future or ignoring it.  In stressful seasons there is probably even more need for planning and a clear goal with steps along the way.  The difference is that once that plan and those steps are made the big picture can be released from the mind to allow for the small pieces to have full focus.

Try and hold onto the big picture and everything that is happening/needs to get done and it is easy to become overwhelmed with stress.  Deal with the one thing that needs to be done now and what felt like it was impossible can become possible.

What is the most important thing for you to do now?

Maybe you aren’t going through a stressful time but you are still avoiding or allowing other things to distract you from what is difficult.

What is the most important thing for you to do now in your relationships?

What is the most important thing for you to do now in your growth?

What is the most important thing for you to do now in your space (home or schedule)?

What is the most important thing for you to do in your job?

It might not be something that changes your life but it is a step toward it.  Consistent steps can start to cover amazing amounts of ground.

Motivation is found from dreaming and looking at the big picture, but the challenges the change creates are conquered in the small pieces of time called ‘now’.

As always, thanks so much for reading!


  1. Nancy Nancy

    Wow Lorilee thanks for sharing this! Dealing with stress is a topic that concerns everyone. In fact I heard someone say recently that the only person who doesn’t have any stress is a dead person. I like the idea of recognizing the good stress and bad stress because we know that not all stress is harmful. The challenge is recognizing bad stress and learning how to turn the bad stress into good stress.
    You certainly have faced a lot of challenges, changes and adjustments recently. I admire your energy, and courage also I want to thank you for your openness and honesty in sharing with us.

  2. Hello Lorilee, I admire your courage, determination, and honesty. Your approach of focusing on the now is a good one. I hope that your life will continue to settle down to a more comfortable level of stress. Sending love and hope your way1

  3. Rebekah Rebekah

    The months after my kids were born are blacked out of my mind too!
    It sounds that you have recently climbed a challenging mountain.
    The theme to live in the moment keeps coming back to me. I want to learn to live that way. C S Lewis said something like, when we wake up, all the things that need to be done start rushing at us like wild animals. What a great description. That picture comes to mind as I choose to shut out the herd and focus on one step at a time. It was enlightening to read your words regarding how planning and narrowing one’s focus interact. Once the plan is made, let go of the big picture. That is a profound and impactful statement. Loved this post. Wishing blessing to come to you, Rebekah

  4. Elaine Elaine

    As I read this, I feel you are addressing me. This is also a very difficult month for me. When you are struggling to pull everything together for your kids and you feel you are losing it because partner is not in sync with you, it adds a whole level of stress. Thanks for writing and we all know it is harder to put the actions in practice.

  5. John John

    Thank you for bearing your soul to a bunch of strangers, this is something I needed to hear today. God only gives us one day at a time and He only expects us to worry about that one day, and not tomorrow. I am always comforted by the words of Matthew 11:28 “Come to me all of you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.” When we surrender our cares to God, He gives us strength to make it through the day.

  6. Rebekah Rebekah

    Your words are so good, John. I recently saw an interview of Joni Eareckson Tada, where she said she wakes up tired. She tells God, I have no strength, but You do. I have no resources, but You do. I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. Would you please lend me your smile for the day?
    I thought that was so beautiful.

    • John John

      Thanks, I am willing to share the smile. I needed to read my own comment, today’s events have reminded me to trust in God some more!

  7. Wow, great post!

    Living in the now is absolutely solid advice. I like to think about what is in front of me, in the moment. This is so calming.

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